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The "best method" to break up is a lie.

Dark Phoenix



Human beings are weird. Or... practise double standards and being hypocritical.

Take for example when friends, acquaintances asked me how am I coping, and if probed further, will usually ask more details about the breakup like who "dumped" who, and how was it done. I get questions like "did you have a clean breakup?" to "was it an adult matured breakup?". Inevitably when  asked further, and I said I initiated it through our text conversation as usual, I get the "WHAT YOU BROKE UP ON WHATSAPP??"

It's never easy and no easy way to break up. You can't exactly write a resignation letter and hand in to him. So what do you mean by adult break up?

And why people don't raise much eyebrows these days if you got to know each other online like IRC, Planetromeo, Grindr etc, but express shock when you break up via the same medium? Oh getting to know someone can be done online but break up must be in person?? Explain the logic please. 

In my case, I'm just tired of talking. I done my fair share of talking in the 2 years with him, and I am just beyond tired of it. 




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chrishansenhome
Jan. 4th, 2013 09:08 am (UTC)
When friends break up, my response is to say, "I'm sorry, I'm here if you need me." and leave it at that. If they want to talk about why or how, I'm around. But prying into the reasons isn't my place.

You can tell your true friends from the fact that they are there to support you.
thisisdavid
Jan. 4th, 2013 02:30 pm (UTC)
Hmmm... I would lose a lot of respect for someone who did it to me online... But that's just me. Call me an old fashioned gal. ;)
kj66
Jan. 4th, 2013 03:25 pm (UTC)
There is no real simple way to break up with anyone. I do believe it’s best to do it in private and in person. I think that’s the adult and mature way to do it. It’s not stay this is always feasible but at least let the person know. I think when a guy knows what’s coming he starts avoiding you which is why I’ve done it over the phone before and via email/IM.

My last break up 4 years ago happened in a restaurant…it was so cliché everyone in the restaurant knew before me. He worked there. At least he bought me a beer LOL. I have to confess I was caught off guard not completely because I did suspect something was bothering him.
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